Peter’s Instruction to Husbands Brian R. Kenyon
Peter put it this way, “Husbands, likewise, dwell with
them [your wives] with understanding, giving honor
to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being
heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers
may not be hindered” (1 Pet. 3:7). The word translated “dwell [live, ESV]” is from a word (sunoikeo,
συνοικέω) that means to live with, live together. This
word is found nowhere else in the New Testament.
Peter gave four ways, husbands are to live with
their wives. First, husbands must live with their wives
intellectually. The word translated “understanding
[knowledge, KJV; from gnosis, γνωσις]” refers to
knowledge; understanding or consideration (2 Pet.
1:5-6; 3:18). A husband must not only understand
his God-given role as the head of his family (Eph.
5:25-33), but he must also know his wife. He must
use every available tool, including the Bible, to help
him get to know his wife (her likes, dislikes, etc.).
Second, husbands must live with their wives honorably. “Giving honor [showing honor, ESV]” carries
the idea of the husband showing his wife respect. He
must praise the good character of his wife, like the
writer of Proverbs, who penned, “Many daughters
have done well, But you excel them all” (Pr. 31:29).
Third, husbands must live with their wives physically. “Weaker vessel [someone weaker, NAS95]”
indicates, generally speaking, that women are physically weaker than men. “Weaker” (from asthenes,
ἀσθενής) usually means sick; weak (Mt. 25:43; Lk.
9:2; Acts 4:9), but it can also mean delicate, as in
parts of the body (Rom. 5:6; 1 Thes. 5:14). “Vessel”
(from skeuos, σκεũος) refers to an object, thing (plural often goods, property); vessel, container, dish;
instrument (Acts 9:15); one’s body or one’s wife (1
Thes. 4:4). The husband needs to “carry the physical
weight” of the marriage by protecting his wife, providing for her physical needs, and making her life as
less stressful as possible! Fourth, husbands must live
with their wives spiritually. Peter’s declaration of
their “being heirs together [fellow heirs, KJV] of the
grace of life” indicates that wives are spiritual equals
with their husbands. Both are made in the image and
likeness of God (Gen. 1:26-27), and Christ died for
them both (Mt. 20:28). Although they have different
roles in the home (Eph. 5:22-33) and church (1 Tim.
2:8-15), both men and women will receive the same
“grace of life,” if they are faithful to the Lord (cf. 2
Tim. 4:7-8; Rev. 2:10). Paul put it this way, “There
is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor
free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all
one in Christ Jesus” (Gal. 3:28).
The seriousness of the husband’s role is seen in
the ending clause, “that your prayers may not be
hindered” (1 Pet. 3:7b). The word from which “hindered” (egkopto, ἐγκόπτω) is translated means to cut
in on; prevent, hinder; detain (Acts 24:4; Rom. 15:4;
Gal. 5:7; 1 Thes. 2:18). Sin is the only thing that hinders prayers (cf. Isa. 1:15; 59:1-2; Jn. 9:31)! Thus,
not fulfilling these God-given ways in which a husband should live with his wife is sin






